Spring Cleaning Your Dating Life

The weather this week in London has got me believing that summer may FINALLY be on the way! So this month, I thought it would be a good idea to take stock and do a little dating spring cleaning.

In my relationship, we’ve always used monthly “check-ins” to make sure we’re on the same page and to clear minor disagreements that - if left unresolved - can quietly build into resentments. But spring offers an even bigger opportunity: to look back at what’s working and intentionally water it. (I know, it’s cheesy - but it’s true!) Calling out the cobwebs and embracing the newness of spring can be transformative - not just in a relationship, but in how you date, too.

If you’re feeling the energy shift, here are five ways to spring clean your dating life:

Audit Your "Type"

Take an honest look at the kind of people you’ve been drawn to. Are they aligned with the future relationship you say you want? Are you attracted to what you need or just what feels familiar? Sometimes our patterns are comfortable, but not necessarily compatible with the growth we’re seeking. This is your season to realign.

Clear Emotional Baggage

Be real with yourself about the triggers and emotional wounds you’re still carrying. How have they shown up in past connections? Healing doesn’t mean pretending you don’t get triggered - it means learning how to respond with self-awareness, not self-sabotage. Delve into the roots of your reactions, offer yourself compassion, and choose healing over replaying old stories.

Refresh Your Standards

Spring is a season of growth. If you have evolved, your standards should, too. Revisit your non-negotiables. Are they still true to the person you’re becoming? Are they based in love and self-respect - or fear and past wounds? Set standards that not only honour the love you deserve but call you to be your best self, too.

Evaluate Your Energy

Your time, attention and energy are precious. Notice the people you're inviting into your space - romantic or platonic. Are they feeding your growth or draining it? Tune into how you feel around them. If a connection consistently leaves you confused, anxious, or undervalued, it’s okay to let it go. Energy doesn’t lie.

Declutter Your Time

Every text, every conversation, every date - ask yourself: Is this aligned with the relationship I’m building? If the answer is no, it’s okay to step away. Protect your time like the sacred thing it is. You don’t owe anyone endless chances or explanations. Choose alignment over attention.

Spring is the season of fresh starts. In love, just like in life, the seeds you plant today shape the harvest you'll enjoy tomorrow. Choose intentionally. Love deeply. Grow boldly.

You deserve a dating life that feels as vibrant and soul-affirming as the season itself.

Ready to spring clean your love life?

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